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Hi Eve. Welcome! I have a boxer that we almost called Nala, but she is too silly for such a regal name, so we went with Leeloo instead. My wife and daughter are both gluten-free, so I’m very familiar with that struggle.
The Accommodation Nobody Approved
Formal accommodations go through a process. They get documented, approved, and occasionally ignored.
But most of us are running a second set of accommodations we built ourselves — the calendar block with a fake name on it, the specific chair, the headphones that mean “not now,” the meeting you always take walking.
What’s yours? The unofficial one that does more for your working life than anything HR ever signed off on.
Follow-up angles:
Has an unofficial one ever become official? What made that possible?
Which of yours would you defend in a room full of executives, and which would you quietly relocate?For anyone who’s managed people: did you ever notice someone’s workaround and just… let it be?
I’m currently watching all the American history documentaries on Netflix. Documentaries are how I relax, and I love to learn.
Brain dumping has proven useful to me when I find I’m only getting partway through a problem and getting stuck, especially when I’m stuck because of competing thoughts. Verbalizing the problem I’m working through regardless of whether there’s anyone there to listen seems to be the only way to get to the solution, or at least a correct definition of the problem.
This is true for me. I find I think best when I’m doing something active, and processing thoughts verbally. I also find myself practicing important conversations with myself, where I am acting as both sides of the interaction. It might sound crazy, but it works.
EmbracingASD, I’m so sorry that happened to you! It’s sad to know that discrimination is still happening.
In my case, with this site being such a big part of my life, as well as being a great display of what I can do, I kind of have to disclose that I have ADHD. I really hope it’s not preventing me from getting interviews, but there isn’t any way to be sure.
I too have been applying for jobs for months. My uncle is a retired judge, and I asked him about the EEO questions. I told him that I struggle with marking it honestly because I feel like they do not select me for interviews when I am honest. I started selecting -I do not choose to answer- or whatever they give us. This has improved my number of interviews. I did make the mistake of mentioning my ASD to an interviewer. She ghosted me. Masking is extremely difficult for me at this stage. I am very black and white. I have created checklists with the potential employer’s stated job duties to check it off against my resume. I once handed it to my interviewer during my interview. He hired me. 🙂
I don’t know how the law works in the US. But here in The Netherlands, a company can’t ask you about if you have a disability. So i would not mention it during a job interview. There is a lot of ignorance around this subject. So there is a big change they will choose someone else for the job if they have multiple options.
Thanks! It is not just a system for onboarding, but to make all sorts of information sharing more interesting. I wrote an article about the idea behind it on LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/your-60-page-onboarding-pdf-where-knowledge-goes-die-2026-griffioen-wmkbe/
